7 such magical words with which you can convince anyone with your words. The science and secrets behind 7 words to motivate, engage, and influence.

 Tim David was a professional magician who gave more than 300 live performances in 1 year. He is now helping managers and leaders strengthen their communication. The author provides solutions to tackle the major problems of the business world.

 His book Magic Words explain the science and secrets behind 7 Simple & Powerful Words on how to convince people to do what you want them to do.

 Convincing people in the world with your words. Get them to do what you want, just like parents struggle to get their kids to do their homework. Teachers struggle to make their students focus, managers struggle to make their employees perform.

 When a child does not eat vegetables, we bribe him with ice cream after eating or when the child does not do homework, we bribe him with chocolate after completing the homework. This technique works only sometimes, it may reduce it in the beginning but later on it is also of no use.

There is an old saying that "you can lead a horse to water, but you cannot make him drink."

 Tim David says you can't make a horse drink water, but you can make it thirsty.

 How 7 simple words can help people around you to do what you want them to do?

 1) The Magic of Yes –

 Think back to one of the greatest moments of your life. Getting down on one knee, holding something in your hands, and expecting something big to happen. Asking a simple question: Will you marry me? After that 10 seconds of silence and leading up to the answer will take you the longest 10 seconds of your life. But in the end, all you hear is a perfect "yes". Easy word can be the most magical word till today.

 The word "yes" is the most important word in any marriage. Dr. John Gottman has studied the influence of words on their marriages, and after studying thousands of couples, Dr. Gautam Haj has the Uncanny Ability to Predict Divorce by a Single Conversation.

Doctor Gotamman has 91% accuracy in predicting the success or failure of a marriage by looking at 6 signs. What that sign  is the exact opposite of representing yes. The most powerful sign is not accepting, not accepting coupled with criticism, denial, stonewalling, and failed repair attempts creates a toxic combination that leads to divorce 91% of the time, so "no" has the power to destroy relationships. The same "yes" has the power to connect relationships.

 The word “yes” indicates that struggle becomes a sharing experience. Yes, words affect relationships other than marriage as well. We humans are afraid of rejection. The feeling of connection and living in a group is the key to our survival. We are afraid whether people will accept us or not but after hearing a yes, we feel unappreciated.

 When we convince someone to say yes, the chances of him saying yes increases. Like when something goes wrong in the office, instead of saying, please fix it for me. It's better to say can we fix this?

 2) The Magic of But –

 Think of a time when you were rejected by a partner or employee. And they said you are very smart, intelligent but, you are not suitable for this job.

 Your brain will remember which account of the conversation but, will focus more on the words that come after the word.

 "You are stubborn but, you are very smart and beautiful."

 Now reverse it,

 "You are very smart and beautiful but, you are stubborn."

 You must have liked the above sentence more in listening or reading. But by using the word but, you can reduce the effect of words before the word but, this effect is called but eraser.

 In other words, what was spoken before the but, word is ignored, so you should start the conversation with the thing you want the other person to forget and end it with the information you want them to remember.

 Starting with negativity and ending with positivity increases your chances of success.

3) The magic of because –

 As humans, we want to know the reason behind everything. We like to know why we need to do this work. If someone gives us a reason, we will take action and have a higher probability of getting it done, because it is a magical word that can influence motivation in people. But the word is a technique for its own sake.

 4) The magic of using people's name –

 No matter how noisy a place we are in, when someone calls our name, we quickly recognize him. Because we are biologically programmed to pay attention to the sound of our name. Using the words of a person's name helps that person make a connection with you. People give importance to their name. Name is a part of our identity, hence people feel more valuable by hearing their name or such words.

 This is called the “name letter effect” where people give more importance to the words in their name than to other alphabets.

 5) The Magic of If –

 If the word forces people to sleep in an imaginary way and to promote motivation, then this word has many powerful abilities. IF has the power to combat reverse psychology. When Crawford and his colleagues asked participants to gamble on an equally capable football team. If researchers suggested betting on one team, participants were 76.5% more likely to bet on the other team. Only because they want to do it of their own free will. Apart from this, when the research said that if you do not feel strong on him then think about how you will feel when he wins, then 73% of the participants took his advice.

6) Asking for help–

 When you go to a comedy show and the comedian asks you to participate, you become an active participant, not just a spectator. In which comedians guide you with their experience.

 Your role as managers, teachers, students should be like this only. Asking for help in the role of manager has a different name for it, called "delegating". When you ask someone for help and, they want to do that work, then you give them this opportunity, because they are appreciative of this opportunity.

 If you want to start a conversation with someone like your crush in class, first ask them for a little favor. Like, do you have black pen? Can you give me this for 5 minutes? And then start a conversation.

 7) The Magic of Giving Thanks –

 The last magic word is – Thank you.

 This word is necessary for the success of any business, you should use the word thank you from employee to customer. Customers who feel important are more likely to return. Employees whose work is appreciated are more likely to do the work with more energy and dedication in the future.