One Saturday afternoon excited to see the love of her life and husband to be; He had a house party the entire night with male friends, which continued through to this Saturday afternoon. At the door, she met a lady on her way out who quickly introduced herself and left.
In the living room were two men who were relatively drunk. Since her man was not in that room, she greeted them and headed to the bedroom. She shook in dismay and shocked; he lay in bed, Proust drunk to the state of unconsciousness with a woman.
If she had not ignored the red flags, could she have been through this painful encounter? She found women's shoes and stick-on nails in his house, several nights, she called him, but calls went unanswered. His frequent night outs without communication shouldn’t have been ignored too.
Her subconscious is signaling her to “keep off,” but she allowed him to give explanations in defense. She, however, did not heed to these signals.
I hear experiences from women “How did things get here” they wonder. They choose a partner, knowing very well. There are red flags; this shows a willingness to suffer the consequences. A red flag is an imminent sign of danger hence when ignored one suffers these consequences;
1. Low Self-esteem
This is a decreased feeling of self-worth; women who ignore red flags feel they could always be better for their partner to make them change. They, in turn, try to change to become more likable to their partners; they feel the urge to do much more to please their partners.
Low self-esteem is a precursor to looking for happiness from companionship.
2. Depression
Depression is a mental disorder that arises from a prolonged period of stress and anxiety. Women ignore red flags because; they feel these red flags are telling the painfully true story.
They keep the issues without sharing with anyone, so they may look okay and happy in their relationship. A depressed mind does not function; normally, this requires medical attention.
3. Bitterness
Bitterness is a continued feeling of anger to people who may not have offended you, hence a projection from someone else who offended you.
As the saying goes “Once bitten twice shy” once you ignore the red flags and the relationship comes to an end later, it creates a feeling of anger and bitterness towards men a potential suitor will notice the bitterness from a distance, and it would scare him this may lead to being lonely and a feeling of self-doubt.
4. Loneliness
Loneliness is a feeling of being on your own as if there’s no one to count on but yourself. You struggle so much to make ends meet without asking for someone to lend you a helping hand.
“No man is an island” this is a feeling that comes when your heart is ache. Once you ignore the red flags, embrace the heartaches to come.
The bottom line is at the beginning of a relationship; those red flags that you ignore become the end. The married liar, the drug addict, the anger monster the cheating partner name them aren’t they red flags? Seek help and counseling before you get the consequences. Remember, every red flag you ignore is leading you to a destination.
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